How to #StartANewLife with confidence

The moment I decided to take up my new job,I knew this was the start of a new life as everyone talks about that big moment when one's life changes. My life has been quite normal so far. Normal parents, normal middle class household, normal education, normal everything. My mother is a teacher so in my house,education came first over everything else. I always knew I would do a job as I could not even think of just staying at home whole day for any reason. I love housework and help my mom in cleaning, cooking whenever possible but I cannot imagine spending my whole time doing just that. And growing up,we always talked about Kiran Bedi and Indira Gandhi as role models in our home,so if they could balance their personal and professional life,then any woman could and so would I. It is just that I had never stayed outside home with anybody else, always my own family members and cousins during vacations. But I was pretty excited about the prospect too.

When I came to Mumbai,I got a rented accommodation with a very nice lady in Andheri East. She is a widow with two sons both of whom are settled in USA,so she has this big house with 3 bedrooms which she rents out to single working girls. There are 4 girls staying in 2 rooms, so the first day I came here,I met my roommate and was very excited to stay with her. She seemed like a very nice girl and we bonded over music and movies. Her parents lived in Hyderabad and she had grown up in quite a different home than mine. A few nights later,I found her tip-toeing back into our room at 4 AM in morning,which was strictly prohibited by our landlady. She told me that she had been out with a few friends and it got late. She had made a copy of the main door and did this now and then. I felt bad as she was cheating our nice landlady but she made me swear that I would not tell on her. However, a few nights later this again happened and this time I could also smell a lot of alcohol. I did not tell on her but I told her that this was not a good thing, she should at least respect the rules of the house as we are living in. Also,the neighbors might notice and say something. Mostly,I was just scared of the kind of people she was being friends with and if they were really nice people or if they were also into drugs etc. Finally about a month later,she did not come home all night and in the morning, the landlady aunty asked me about her whereabouts. I told her what she knew and also apologized for not telling her about this earlier. She was sad but did not scold me at all. I felt very bad and called my parents on what had happened and my mom said that I should again apologize to her. When my roommate came home at about 9 in the morning, I told her what had happened and asked her on the landlady aunty's behalf to leave the home as this was not the conduct of a good person from a good house. The landlady aunty also asked her to do the same.

Looking back at this,I remember being all new in the city and also a little bit shy but I learnt something very important-honesty is the foundation of everything. I could not start my new life on the basis of cheating or lying as my roommate was, it was not something I was taught by my parents and it was not the right thing to do. It taught me to be confident enough to do what was right without worrying about what anyone else was thinking. I used to care about my roommate enough to lie for her but then I realized it was my own lack of self-confidence that stopped me from doing the right thing. Today I live in a different house but I am still in touch with the landlady aunty and she always reminds me to remember the start of my new life here in Mumbai. Remember this as you browse through Housing website and see this video.

 

How to Lookup in life

As I got ready to start my new job in an all new city,my mind was filled with a thousand questions and will I be able to make it to the top on my own. Then there came the moment of meeting my grandparents and saying goodbye to them. We have a big joint family who have always been together and this was the first time I was going to be away. When I met my aaji (grandmother) and told her about my fears,whether my boss would be nice, whether my colleagues would be nice, how would I be able to remember to pay all my bills on time, she started laughing loudly and told me that I would do everything nicely as she had done all of that such a long time ago.Then she told me her story.

Well,my grandmother was born in modern day Pakistan,Lahore to be exact. When partition of India happened,her parents decided to move to India along with a lot of other hindu families living in their little colony. Many of their friends and neighbours were Muslims,some of whom helped in getting them safely onboard the trains coming to India but many also turned violent as it was a turbulent time when friends turned foes overnight. One of my grandmother's childhood friends was Muslim and even her family decided to come to India too. These 2 families came to Delhi together,thankfully (as my grandmother says) the train they came in was not looted and they came in safely as this was a big thing back then as many trains were completely looted and all people butchered in them. Well, they all reached Delhi and were herded into refugee camps with nowhere to go. The officials there told them that surely they will find some alternate accommodation,jobs etc. but they will have to be patient as the whole partition process had rendered a lot of loss on both sides and the economies of both the countries were not enough to give a good life to each and every person. So they had to wait. Meanwhile, my grandmother's mom got very ill as she had pneumonia for some time now and it was not possible for her to bear all the stress and those ill-living quarters and stay healthy! My grandmother and her friend then decided to start some work on their own to save some money as they couldn't live in those camps forever. They started to do some stitching work for other refugee ladies and slowly for some residential quarters near the camps in Delhi itself. Soon they branched out in embroidery work as my grandmotheer's friend-Saraa,her name was-really good in embroidery work while my aaji was good at math. Together,these friends saved enough money to start a kind of shop doing such work for many ladies on a permanent basis. Unfortunately my aaji's mother died of pneumonia complications soon after but my aaji and Saraa soon got both families out of desperation. They moved on to own a big shop in Delhi selling all kinds of dress material, sarees, bags, doing embroidery work on the same. This is how my aaji started her life after a tragedy like partition. 

After telling me this story,she asked me, how could I not succeed when she had under such difficult conditions?And listening to her made me feel a surge of hope and optimism like nothing else. Today,whenever I feel down or scared,I just remember her words and am able to smile and look forward to future with happiness,just like the feeling one might get as one browses through Housing website.

Okay Purchase- Lotus Herbals Whiteglow Skin Brightening Whitening Serum Review

Having heard from all my friends and neighbors on how important it is to have a serum in everyday beauty routine,I went ahead and bought 3 different serums and today I will review the first one that I used for 1 month regularly.It comes from the famous herbal brand of Lotus Herbals and has really good reviews too.

It claims, ' Enriched with Grape, Mulberry, Saxifraga extracts and Milk enzymes that are known fairness agents A proprietary formula that distributes via an advanced delivery system It visibly refines large pores, eliminates blackheads and reduces the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles'

On application,it simply seeps in my skin without making any kind of effect,it is not a cream so it does not leave any kind of sheen behind,it however gave a little matte effect on my skin after 2-3 minutes which I like.On top of it,I put sunscreen before going out and it held together very well. After regular use,I think I can see tighter pores and a little permanent glow which is a good thing. This is the first time I have used a serum and I think I was expecting a little more,but I think a very oily skin like me needs something more potent because I want oil control,blackheads control,squeaky clean yet hydrated skin and this serum only gives hydration and little matte effect for 5-6 hours. Apart from that,I think even if I use other products without using a serum,I would get same effect of glow and tighter pores! Also,it is expensive for the little quantity,I think just because it is called a serum,the brands charge more for it!

My rating-2.5/5

Okay Purchase- Lotus Herbals Safe Sun Anti-Tan Scrub Review

I am not a big fan of scrubs but got this last week because one of my friends said this works during hot summers which is happening right now.

It comes in nice tube,is creamy,has tiny granules,is quite thick & spreads easily over skin. Thus it gives good exfoliation but has almost no tan-removal properties,even though it is very useful in scrubbing,even for sensitive skin. Nobody should be expecting miracles but it is useful in removing blackheads too,so I would recommend it as good exfoliant, nothing else. Smell is nice which lingers for some time too.

My Rating-3/5

Good Purchase- Aroma Magic Insta Radiance Green Tea Pack Review

I like pampering my skin with face packs and my oily skin is always needing something to suck up the excess oil. I bought this pack as recommended by a friend.

I like applying the creamy mask as it does not feel slippery and actually feels very light on application,it makes a very glossy effect on my skin. The fragrance is also awesome. I like drinking green tea and the fragrance reminds me of that even though there are other ingredients in this too. The tube is very attractive. On washing it off, I like the clean feeling that I get, my face is free of all excess oil and there is a temporary brightening effect. This would be a great purchase if this glow stayed for 2-3 days but it days for 1 day only. So I like using this once every 3-4 days.

My Rating- 4/5

Good Purchase- Himalaya Herbals Footcare Cream Review

My mom bought this last week and asked me to review it here so as to give everyone an idea of how it is. She really loves it and this review is only based on her experience.

Comes in a standard tube like all other Himalaya products and is easy to carry around. The cream is thick and smooth in texture. It smells very strong & purely herbal. The smell is nice to my mom's nose and mine too. She has been applying it every night for a week and feels that she gets instantly soft feet after applying it. She sleeps at night after applying and in the morning she wakes up to really smooth feet and within a week her rough heels have become much smoother to touch. Now she has started applying it twice a day and the only thing is-after applying it in the morning,she waits for 10 minutes before putting on slippers otherwise the cream might feel sticky. But in 10 minutes it is completely absorbed. She loves it and now even I am thinking of applying it. Great product.

My Rating-4.5/5

Okay purchase- Aroma Magic Beauty Pack Review

This is a face pack I purchased about 10 days ago and I have used it enough times to properly review it here. So here it is, a review of Aroma Magic Beauty Pack! I had heard a lot of good things about Aroma Magic face packs and so bought this for trial.

I love the all new packaging of Aroma Magic products. Simply charming and so colorful. The tube is travel friendly and face pack is white in color with creamy texture. I think it gives a tingling feeling on application so sensitive skin people may need to check it before applying! It doesn’t dry out completely & is easy to wash off with water. I have used it 5 times so far and it does give a little glow on washing off but I have an oily skin and I think it leaves a little slippery feeling behind which vanishes after some time. There is no 'magic' so I will not repurchase it but dry skinned people may like this more as it does add to hydration. Also it is available for around 375 rupees which I think is a bit on expensive side.

My rating-3/5

Good purchase -Aroma Magic Under Eye Gel Review

Bought some aroma magic products about 10 days ago,so let me start by reviewing my favorite from the lot-Aroma Magic under eye gel.

It is perfect for my oily skin,as unlike the earlier cream that I used,it does not leave it feeling stretchy at all. I have been using it regularly for about 8 days now and it has made me feel fresh in my under eye area, no immediate results but I like applying it everyday and am addicted to it! It comes in a hygienic tube that is easy to carry around. It has an immediate cooling effect on the eyes and the best part is that very little quantity is needed so it will easily last me 2-3 months even if I apply it everyday twice! I am going to use it and update you on its efficacy over long run!

My rating-4/5